Countless times we find ourselves at breaking point in our lives, where the outcome that befalls is not the desired route and places us in a state of hopelessness . There are numerous mindsets that we adopt prior to prep ourselves for the outcome.
The optimist conceived that serendipity would be attained and that relinquishing their thoughts from such negativity would repel the pain and endorsing themselves in buoyant thought would further strengthen the will to overcome, but as hope raises you it decorates you in the vulnerability to plummet to your demise.
The pessimist sees the worst possible outcome and embraces the upcoming state of hardship, pessimism is a mental attitude in which an undesirable outcome is anticipated from a given situation. Pessimists tend to focus on the negatives of life in general. The acceptance of the negatives and rejection of hope places them in a shell of invulnerability however only for a limited amount of time.
Although the stoic sees best. The stoic fathoms that the pain could be far worse and while it comes with it's severity they can still endure it, a stoic does not offer polluted rhetoric on having hope that things will be "all right". A stoic fashions themselves in both schools of thoughts but is not defined by either, the stoic grasps the idea that this pain will be grievous but does not stand idol but rather preps themselves to overcome this harrowing and challenging road ahead. They construct an appropriate defence against the hardships of life such as: betrayal ,heartbreak ,physical harm and humiliation so thus when these negatives thrust themselves forward the stoic is composed as they have accounted for all their liabilities like any accountant.
There may be some obscurity as to differentiating a stoic to a pessimist given their slight similarity, but no, if anything a stoic can be viewed more along the lines of "boldly optimistic" than pessimistic.
A key stoic lesson could be seen in "The consolation of philosophy" where Boethius in his latter lucid stages of life spoke on Fortuna and the wheel of fortune, this is where many rise into a life of grandeur and then plummet into the depths of desolation. But that is the covenant of the wheel and is how it shall function the only thing we as passengers can do is prepare ourselves for the tasks to come. Yes of course fates offers are luxurious, allusive and attractive and we relish the satisfaction and joy we get from them while they are with us and weep when they are not. However ultimately the fundamental truth is it was never ours to begin with so why care, we must avoid the impulse to have faith in things governed by chance, in things we simply do not have the control to influence or orientate if we do seek to live like stoics. If not then like the stoics always knew we could quit the game of life with...suicide. They always believed in the idea that the door is always open and like Epictetus said:"All roads are equal."
A concluding story when relating to stoicism is that of Senecas death. Seneca one of the pioneers of stoicism was caught up in the aftermath of the Pisonian conspiracy, a plot to kill the tyrannical Nero.
Nero ordered him to kill himself. Before being taken to perform the gruesome act Seneca proclaimed to his wife Pompeia Paulina and his two children who grasped at his cloak in desperate disbelief :"What need is there to weep over parts of life, the whole of it calls for tears". Seneca followed tradition by severing several veins in order to bleed to death.
Accept the tragedies of life outside your control.